Mom, Please don't write, don't call

When a grown child cuts off communication with a parent,  the parent(s) feel shame, disillusion and hurt.  Even if they have done nothing wrong,  Even if their other children turned out fine. 

Joshua Coleman's new book, When Parents Hurt, can help such parents cope and carry on.

"When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along" (Joshua Coleman)

His website is here - whenparentshurt.com - along with excerpts from the first chapter

Dear Mom,

I have decided that I don’t want to have any contact with you ever again. Please don’t write or call me anymore. I can’t stop thinking about all of the ways that you were never there for me when I was growing up. Whenever I see or talk to you, I just end up feeling depressed, angry, and upset for weeks afterwards. It’s just not worth it to me and I need to get on with my life. Please respect my wishes and don’t contact me again. 

Letter from Clarice, 23 to her mother, Fiona, 48