March 18, 2017

On beautiful women

On beautiful women by David Warren.

"There are two kinds of women to whom I am attracted: bad ones and good ones"

....Over time — and I suppose age helps, though not as much as the young might suppose — I find that I have been developing "a preferential option for good women."...I am writing as a male, incidentally.  Women will have to speak for themselves.  Their attractions to men are beyond my comprehension.
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When it comes to bad women, I find that my attention is focused, almost but not quite involuntarily, on those who just happen to be young and gorgeous.  Whereas, when it comes to good women, my attention is captured by all ages.  And whereas, in the first case, the idea of possession is never far away, in the second it disperses.....And often enough, unconventionally beautiful, as for instance certain old ladies, married or widowed or never married or nuns, who exquisitely embody the feminine principle.  To be in their company is to be somehow washed, of that which makes one most grossly male.
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Women have been not "objectified" in our culture so much as monetized; used as a sales tool.  Every man who walks through our contemporary world is exposed to this gnawing devilry.  Women are demeaned by the "soft" pornography that surrounds us; on the billboards, but also walking the streets.  Actually it is quite hard pornography, by any traditional measure; one might even say it is exhausting.  It enters not only the eyes of men, portals to the soul; but also the eyes and souls of the women.  By increments they become what they behold.

There are women who are beautiful, as paintings.  I could gaze on them all day.  But in the moment lust enters the configuration, that beauty is destroyed.  As anything else in the economy it becomes something to use then discard.   
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