January 17, 2018

Manhood and Alpha Males

Manhood is Not Natural

Manhood is not natural, but it is essential. No society can endure if it does not harness male sexual energy and teach men to take care of the children they father and the women who bear them.

As George Gilder explains pointedly in Men and Marriage, "Unlike a woman, a man has no civilized role or agenda inscribed in his body."  The boy has no onboard GPS directing him toward his future.  His transition into manhood can only come into being with significant, intentional work by other men.  As a behavior, manhood must be learned, proven, and earned.  As an identity, manhood must be bestowed by a boy's father and the community's larger fraternity of men.  His mother can only affirm it.  She cannot bequeath it....

Maleness just happens, but manhood does not.  The first is a biological event, while the second is a developed character quality.  When manhood is not formed and cultivated, males fail to mature, resulting in the "perpetual adolescence" or "failure to launch" that plagues our culture....

The human male nature doesn't naturally go in the direction civilization requires; it requires the direction of other men.  Unlike the female nature, which tends to exist reliably among the median scale of human behavior, the male nature is oriented more toward extremes, for good or bad.....

Manhood must be crafted and refined in order to orient males in pro-social, communitarian directions.  In fact, this is the first work of every civilization.....Ghettos are not created by city planners, crime by the police, or failing health by big pharma.  Each of these social ills arises by inattention to the sexual behaviors of males.  If he doesn't have to marry before having sex (and potentially fathering children), the average man won't.  So he hasn't.  The feminization of poverty and the accompanying declines in female happiness and childhood well-being are the tragic results....

In Manhood in the Making, anthropologist David Gilmore provides an essential insight:

One of my findings here is that manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice.  Again and again, we find that "real" men are those who give more than they take away; they serve others.  Real men are generous, even to a fault.  Non-men are often those stigmatized as stingy and unproductive.

A good man is the fountain, not the drain.  The formation of such men is the first task of human civilization, and its largest threat when ignored.

A Woman’s Defense of the Alpha Male

In both my personal and professional life, I’m a woman who spends most of her time in the company of alpha males...who embody the traditional traits of Alpha Male dominance: strength, competitiveness, courage, assertiveness, decisiveness, intelligence, aggression…I could go on ad infinitum. These qualities don’t faze me in the slightest. Quite the contrary: I love and absolutely embrace these qualities, both in males and in myself.

As much as he may excel as an athlete or on the battlefield, a true Alpha Male also develops the capacities of character to temper, channel, moderate, and strategically employ this strength. Character – and what is traditionally referred to as “honor” – is central to the way that these men live their lives....

The success and survival of the human race is due as much to woman’s reproductive power as it is due to man’s power to protect and provide. Balance is found by establishing mutual respect; not by diminishing one side or the other.

Posted by Jill Fallon at January 17, 2018 11:48 AM | Permalink