November 24, 2014

Don't spend too much time with dying

Dear friends and family, your endless deathbed visits RUINED my precious final moments with my husband. 

In an excoriating open letter that'll bitterly divide opinion, an anguished widow says the unsayable… 

And of course I know you grieve for him. I’m certain you feel his absence acutely. But I also believe that by monopolizing him and draining him of the last dregs of his energy you were being insensitive and self-serving. You were encroaching on time that should have been ours alone — and for that I am finding it hard to forgive you.
Posted by Jill Fallon at 11:31 AM | Permalink

October 27, 2014

You are so loved’: Last words spoken to dying Ottawa soldier

‘You are so loved’: Last words spoken to dying Ottawa soldier by lawyer who tried to save him after shooting

Barbara Winters was on her way to a meeting on Wednesday morning when she passed the National War Memorial, stopping to take a few photos of the guards on duty before heading off on her way.  Seconds later, she heard four shots and, knowing exactly what had happened, ran not away from the noise but back towards the Memorial and Cirillo.  Winters said she had an instinctive feeling that the guards had been targeted.

With four people already laying over the solider, and doing everything they could to help him, Winters also got involved.  A nurse on her way to work, Margaret Lerhe, and another solider who was on guard were busy applying pressure to his wounds so as to stop his bleeding.  A fellow passerby was working to elevate the 24-year-old's feet while a fellow corporal was by his head talking to him.  'You’re doing good, you’re doing good, buddy,' he told Cirillo.  'You’re breathing - keep breathing.'

 Barbara Winters By Dying Cirillo

Winters, who was recounting her story for The Globe and Mail, she got down, loosened the solider's tie, said a prayer, and also began speaking to the brave young corporal, telling him, 'You’re a good man, you’re a brave man.'

He soon stopped breathing and lost his pulse, but the team of five strangers kept doing everything they could for Cirillo. They started compressions and lifted his legs higher and alternated giving the man CPR.  And Winters kept on talking.

You are loved. Your family loves you. You’re a good man,' she told him.
'Your family loves you. Your parents are so proud of you. Your military family loves you. All the people here, we’re working so hard for you. Everybody loves you.'

Unfortunately her words, and the hard work of the five strangers, could not save Cirillo.He died in their arms as paramedics arrived and began to work on him.

If you ever come upon the scene of a fatal accident, for the love of God don't take cellphone photos.  Kneel by the dying. Do what these people did.  Express love to the dying.  Don't let them die alone

Posted by Jill Fallon at 11:45 AM | Permalink

December 12, 2013

Funeral Etiquette

Creator of ‘Selfies at Funerals’ blog retires after Obama flub: ‘Our work here is done

The man who decided to turn the social media phenomenon of “funeral selfies” into a viral blog has announced he is shutting down the website after President Obama snapped a shot of himself at Nelson Mandela’s memorial on Tuesday.
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“Obama smooshed heads with the Danish and British prime ministers for what is arguably the most epic funeral selfie of all time,” Jason Feifer, creator of the Selfies at Funerals blog, wrote in the Britain’s The Guardian.


 Obama Funeral Selfie

My Tumblr was once a collection of evidence, convincing the world that something very strange actually existed, but now everyone believes, and everyone has seen, and Thorning-Schmidt has the evidence on her phone.

“So it was time to do the only sensible thing: It was time to declare victory, to revel in drawing a line from the bottom to the top,” he continued.

“I won’t miss it. I’m not even tempted to post another image. That is, unless the pope takes a funeral selfie. Then I’ll return for one more. Your move, Your Holiness,” he said.

It's no secret that criminals read the obituary pages.  Archbishop Desmond Tutu's home robbed same day he attended memorial for Nelson Mandela

If you are named in a relative's obituary, you would be wise to ask a neighbor or a friend to stay at your home while you attend the funeral and reception.

Posted by Jill Fallon at 1:03 PM | Permalink

November 14, 2013

Don't Honk at Funerals

Moment New Jersey mourners attacked driver who honked his horn at them on way into a FUNERAL  Video at the link.

A solemn occasion turned into a violent attack on Tuesday after mourners beat a driver who honked his horn outside a church where the funeral was to be held.

A witness caught the incident outside La Iglesia de Dios in Mount Holly, New Jersey on camera.

Emotions were already running high when the driver of a red Chevrolet, irritated at funeral-goers who were holding up traffic, honked his horn.

Footage shows a group of eight or more young men, some wearing memorial t-shirts, swarming the car angrily.

Several of the men slam the car with their fists, and another runs up and begins to lay into the driver through his open car window.

The man appears to land at least five hits on the driver of the red car before he is pulled away by fellow mourners.

Other mourners approach the group of men and appear to by trying to calm them down.

No matter frustrating the traffic is, don't honk at funerals.  Take a deep breath and contemplate the shortness of your life. 

Posted by Jill Fallon at 2:49 PM | Permalink

October 17, 2013

What NOT to do when you give a eulogy

Funeral Etiquette: Do not swear or use coarse language at a funeral, especially when giving a eulogy.   At funerals, you should be respectful, tactful and dignified, especially if you are the one chosen to give a eulogy.  People are grieving, feeling deeply the loss of a friend and family member and their own mortality, so they are in a fragile state.    Do not add to their distress but seek to give comfort to all you meet.

Sir Cameron Mackintosh has been branded a 'disgrace' after upsetting mourners by swearing while giving a eulogy at a friend's funeral.  "Now is name is mud"

Funeral attendees, who were paying their respects to Frank Conway, 88, were shocked by his use of coarse language during his address to the congregation.Mr Conway lived as an old-fashioned retainer on the 15,000-acre estate, running a travelers bunkhouse in a former Loch Nevis church that is owned by Sir Cameron.

Sir Cameron, who owns a 15,000-acre Nevis Estate in the Highlands near where the funeral took place, is said to have used swear words and inappropriate phrases, such as 'fornicating p****.'
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'You don't need any set rule in place to prevent this. 'It's unwritten that you don't use language like this in that situation.'

Councillor for Caol and Mallaig Bill Clark said: 'I cannot believe he would use language like that in the church. It is a disgrace.

'You would not see that in the Highland Council chambers or in Parliament.

The funeral service was held by Father Joseph Calleja, who said: 'I was upset by it and still am. If you cannot say something good about somebody, you should say nothing.'

Sir Cameron, 66, was telling a story about Mr Conway's time running a bunkhouse in Tarbet and referring to a letter sent to him by two dissatisfied German tourists when he made the comments.

Mourners attempted to shout Sir Cameron down during the service held at Our Lady of Perpetual Succour and St Cumin in Morar.

Retired skipper Alex Donald, 72, who was at the funeral on October 4, added: 'It is the talk of the local area.

'He has done a lot of good for the community, but now his name is mud.

'He is an educated man and should have known better.'
Posted by Jill Fallon at 10:48 AM | Permalink

October 15, 2013

What NOT to do when you give a eulogy

Funeral Etiquette: Do not swear or use coarse language at a funeral, especially when giving a eulogy.   At funerals, you should be respectful, tactful and dignified, especially if you are the one chosen to give a eulogy.  People are grieving, feeling deeply the loss of a friend and family member and their own mortality, so they are in a fragile state.    Do not add to their distress but seek to give comfort to all you meet.

Sir Cameron Mackintosh has been branded a 'disgrace' after upsetting mourners by swearing while giving a eulogy at a friend's funeral.  "Now is name is mud"

Funeral attendees, who were paying their respects to Frank Conway, 88, were shocked by his use of coarse language during his address to the congregation.Mr Conway lived as an old-fashioned retainer on the 15,000-acre estate, running a travelers bunkhouse in a former Loch Nevis church that is owned by Sir Cameron.

Sir Cameron, who owns a 15,000-acre Nevis Estate in the Highlands near where the funeral took place, is said to have used swear words and inappropriate phrases, such as 'fornicating p****.'
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'You don't need any set rule in place to prevent this. 'It's unwritten that you don't use language like this in that situation.'

Councillor for Caol and Mallaig Bill Clark said: 'I cannot believe he would use language like that in the church. It is a disgrace.

'You would not see that in the Highland Council chambers or in Parliament.

The funeral service was held by Father Joseph Calleja, who said: 'I was upset by it and still am. If you cannot say something good about somebody, you should say nothing.'

Sir Cameron, 66, was telling a story about Mr Conway's time running a bunkhouse in Tarbet and referring to a letter sent to him by two dissatisfied German tourists when he made the comments.

Mourners attempted to shout Sir Cameron down during the service held at Our Lady of Perpetual Succour and St Cumin in Morar.

Retired skipper Alex Donald, 72, who was at the funeral on October 4, added: 'It is the talk of the local area.

'He has done a lot of good for the community, but now his name is mud.

'He is an educated man and should have known better.'
Posted by Jill Fallon at 10:50 AM | Permalink

August 1, 2013

Teamsters disrupting funerals

Teamsters Ordered to Stop Picketing Funeral Homes

A judge ordered one of Chicago’s most politically powerful labor unions to suspend picketing against 16 funeral homes last week after receiving reports that striking Teamsters had, among other things, disturbed a child’s funeral.

SCI Illinois Services, Inc., one of the nation’s largest funeral home chains, asked a district court to intervene after striking funeral directors and drivers with Teamsters Local 727 allegedly harassed grieving families.
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The company testified in its filing that union members blocked grieving family members from leaving its parking lot, used bullhorns to shout obscenities at workers and mourners, and unleashed a German Shepard on a dead woman’s daughter and husband.

The funeral home was eventually forced to call the police when picketers allegedly disrupted a child’s funeral with laughter. The officer asked the Teamsters to leave, but protesters returned when he drove away.

What appalling behavior.  How are they any different from Westboro Baptist Church that disrupts funerals to decry homosexuality?

Posted by Jill Fallon at 12:00 PM | Permalink

June 26, 2013

Robbers read obituaries to find out when houses will be empty

One well-known trick of robbers is reading the obituaries to find out when people will be away from their homes to attend a funeral.    If you're a neighbor looking for a way to help a grieving family, consider house sitting while they attend the funeral.

Family's home burgled while they attended funeral of their murdered son after criminals stalked obituary pages

A Kentucky family has spoken out against the thieves who ransacked their home while they were attending their murdered son's funeral.

Cindy and Dennis Higdon were already heartbroken from the tragic death of their 20-year-old son when they came home to find thieves had taken some of his keepsakes along with jewelry, guns and laptops. Police said these heartless criminals are part of a growing trend of thieves who stalk the local obituaries to discover when families won't be home,
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Christian's obituary was published in a local paper, The News-Enterprise, on June 19, 2012. Listing visitation, funeral and prayer service times for the following day, police said the obituary made it easy for Acord and Terry to target the Hidgon's home.

'It is a sick feeling to think that that person sat and literally watched us go through hell,' ….'Stuff strewn everywhere, they went through everything we own, every cabinet, everything we own,' Dennis Higdon said.

Kentucky State Police said a jewelry box, four long guns, two frills, a GPS, three laptops, an Xbox 360 Kinect, a Nintendo Wii game console and a few hundred dollars were taken from the Higdon's home.

The thieves were nabbed when Acord tried to pawn an item with a serial number at Elizabethtown Dixie Jewelry and Loan. An employee, Tyler Wright, told WAVE News the serial number was entered in an internal database and he called the police.
'It makes us feel great knowing we're able to help catch the bad apples,' Wright said.
Posted by Jill Fallon at 10:09 AM | Permalink

May 28, 2013

Venom against grieving family

A four week old baby died of whopping cough.  Anyone with normal feelings can understand how the family is grieving and suffering over the loss of their child.  Yet, unbelievably, this family has become a target for the anti-vaccination lobby.

Grieving parents speak out against anti-vaccination extremists

As Toni held her tiny baby, she couldn't comprehend the loss, or how they would survive the sorrow.

Little did they know then that Dana's death from whooping cough, and the media coverage that followed, came to represent a very inconvenient truth to the anti-vaccination lobby - and thus began an extraordinary campaign against this grieving family.

The couple has been accused of being on the payroll of drug companies; they have had their daughter's death questioned and mocked; they have even been told to "harden the f . . . up" by an opponent of vaccination.

"The venom directed at us has just been torture and it's been frightening, abhorrent and insensitive in the extreme," says Toni, who has not had the strength to talk about this until now.

May poor little Dana rest in peace and may her family find some consolation in the vast majority who have expressed their abhorrence at the lack of humanity shown by the anti-vaccination lobby.

Posted by Jill Fallon at 6:28 PM | Permalink

March 23, 2013

“Grief sorts out and realigns those around the grief-struck; how friends are tested; how some pass, some fail.”

In a review of Julian Barnes new book, Levels of Love, Hannah Furness writes how Barnes was disappointed in how friends reacted to his wife's death.

The author, a former Man Booker Prize winner, worked out precise details while grieving for Pat Kavanagh, his wife of 30 years.

In his new novel, Levels of Life, he writes for the first time about coping with her death from cancer, aged 68, in 2008, and attacks friends whom he believes were too cowardly to speak her name
He describes Kavanagh, a literary agent, as “the heart of my life; the life of my heart”.

He goes on to note: “Grief sorts out and realigns those around the grief-struck; how friends are tested; how some pass, some fail.”

He adds: “You might expect those closest to you in age and sex and marital status to understand best. What a naivety. I remember a 'dinner-table conversation’ in a restaurant with three married friends of roughly my age.

“Each had known her for many years – perhaps 80 or 90 in total – and each would have said, if asked, that they loved her. I mentioned her name; no one picked it up. I did it again, and again nothing. Perhaps the third time I was deliberately trying to provoke, being p----- off at what struck me not as good manners but cowardice.

“Afraid to touch her name, they denied her thrice, and I thought the worse of them for it.
” Barnes, who has been known for more cryptic works, also admitted considering suicide after her death…..But he decided his end would be akin to a second death of his wife, since he was “her principal rememberer”.

Remember:  A person who is grieving the loss of a loved one, likes to talk about the departed.

Posted by Jill Fallon at 12:12 PM | Permalink

February 19, 2013

Police: Don't notify a mother of her son found dead using Facebook and the moniker 'Misty Hancock'

Where was Lt Schindler when they handed out common sense and decency? 

Police tried to message mother on Facebook to tell her son was dead - while she spent weeks hunting for him

An Atlanta woman is infuriated after police used Facebook to notify her of her 30-year-old son's death, rather than calling her or paying a visit to her home.

Anna Lamb-Creasey had been calling hospitals and jails for weeks, searching for her son Rickie, who went missing on January 25.  She even posted a message on his Facebook page that read, 'Rickie, where are you? Love mom.

But it wasn't until February 14 that she discovered her son's fate, when her daughter opened a Facebook message from someone named 'Misty Hancock.'  It was the same 'Misty Hancock' - whose profile picture featured Atlanta rapper T.I. - that had sent Lamb-Creasey a Facebook message on January 31.

But Lamb-Creasey had never read the message because the sender's strange name and profile picture led her to assume it was some sort of scam.

'I'm thinking it's just a fake,' she told wsbtv.com.

When Lamb-Creasey's daughter opened the message, however, she discovered it was regarding Rickie.

'Anna, This is Lt Schindler with the Clayton County Police Dept.,' the message read. 'It is important that I speak with you immediately. Call me at 678-***-****. Thanks so much.'

Click the link to see the Facebook profile of Misty Hancock.   

Posted by Jill Fallon at 8:39 PM | Permalink

November 27, 2012

Learning about your daughter's death on Facebook

Inexcusable behavior by the staff at Valdosta State University in Georgia.  Imagine learning about your daughter's death or murder on Facebook

Devastated parents found out about 17-year-old college student daughter’s murder on FaceBook

A mother and father from Lawrenceville, Georgia, were disgusted to first hear about the death of their 17-year-old daughter from a friend's post on Facebook.  Freshman nursing student Jasmine Benjamin was found dead in shared dorm student area on November 18.

But staff at Valdosta State University didn't notify the parents of her death. Furthermore, the girl's mother, Judith Jackson, and her stepfather, James Jackson, still haven't got many more answers about how Jasmine died.
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The family was shocked further when police explained that someone had killed Jasmine.

'To find out it was a homicide and that somebody actually murdered our daughter changed everything,' Jackson told the Atlanta Journal-Constitution. 'It was like hearing the news all over again.'

And what to make of the school staff at Manchester High School in Connecticut?

Student drowned at high school pool after he lay on bottom for 17 MINUTES while his classmates swam above

A student in Connecticut drowned at his high school's pool after he lay on the bottom for 17 minutes while his classmates splashed and swam above him.  Malvrick Donkor, 14, slipped below the water during a swimming class at Manchester High School on Wednesday. Surveillance video reportedly shows no splashing or struggling to swim.

He was only found after other students began to leave the pool after class ended and spotted him at the bottom of the deep end.
'There's no splashing, no flailing like you would typically think of,' a source who watched the CCTV tape told the Hartford Courant. 'He just slipped under water. Other kids were swimming over the top of him, not knowing he was down below.'

It is unknown how many adults were supervising the students and how the lifeguards never spotted Malvrick drowning.
Posted by Jill Fallon at 8:08 PM | Permalink

March 3, 2012

Speak no evil of the dead. Dance on no graves.

The occasion of any death reminds that we are all mortal.  Tradition and custom, based on accumulated wisdom gathered from ancient times up until the present day, has declared that we speak no evil of the dead.  De mortuis nihil nisi bonum which translated literally means, Of the dead say nothing except good.

This does not mean that the lives of the dead are whitewashed.  Facts about the dead and the consequences of their bad acts should not be made light of or hidden away.    What should be hidden and suppressed from public expression are hateful emotions such as delight in someone's death, mocking or cursing the dead., callousness and cruelty.

One reason is that the dead are dead and can not reply and their families are raw, their lives torn apart with a gaping hole where their loved one was.  Why add to their suffering? 

Human decency demands that their immediate grief be respected.  In the case of Andrew Breitbart, he leaves a widow, four young children under twelve, parents, in-laws, cousins, siblings and countless other close friends and colleagues. 

This is especially true for political opponents.  Even if you detest their politics, they are still human beings and fellow citizens, worthy of dignity and respect.

If you can not find one decent, kind thing to say about the dead, say nothing.    Why expose a shrunken heart or bilious hate to the world for the momentary pleasure of a tweet.  Everything lasts on the Internet.    And those on the left who celebrated the death of Andrew Breitbart will be haunted by what they so recklessly and shamefully tossed on the internet.

They should be shamed.  And so I am reposting some of their tweets.

Liberals celebrate death of Andrew Breitbart

The most influential tweet came from Slate's Matt Yglesias (@mattyglesias), who tweeted: "Conventions around dead people are ridiculous. The world outlook is slightly improved with @AndrewBrietbart dead."

AlmightyBob ‏ @AlmightyBoob : @AndrewBreitbart haha youre dead and in hell being a gay with hitler

Jeff Glasse ‏ @jeffglasse : Andrew Breitbart now enjoying afternoon tea with Hitler #goodriddanceyouhack

@darrenfiorello: Andrew Breitbart died? Is it wrong that I'm happier about that than when they got bin Laden and Saddam?

Scott On Da Rox  @ridinchillwaves : RT GOOD RIDDANCE..fascist prick @Gawker: Andrew Breitbart Dead? gawker.com/5889586/

John Kapp ‏ @johnkapp : Andrew Breitbart was a racist, sexist, homophobe. Good riddance.

Gabriel ‏ @gabriel0923 : Andrew #Breitbart has died having been finally consumed by his revolting hatred! The world is better off without him!

Dufus ‏ @dufus : Did we cry when Hitler died? No.. #Breitbart see you in hell asshole

Natasha Yar-Routh ‏ @xiomberg : Andrew Breitbart is dead, good riddance to bad trash. He was a vile excuse for a human being

Dave Lartigue ‏ @daveexmachina : Andrew Breitbart has died. Honestly, good riddance. He helped poison the country where I live and we are better off without him.

Lalo Alcaraz ‏ @laloalcaraz RT @Mfusion66: RIP Breitbart? Nah, too good to be true

vtred ‏ @vtred1 : Good riddance to Andrew Breitbart - a McCarthyite nutcase.

Sean Paul Kelley ‏ @seanpaulkelley Andrew Breitbart has died: bigjournalism.com/lsolov/2012/03… If so, good riddance.

CpG ‏ @Crow1138 : I know it's wrong, but good riddance “@cnnbrk: Conservative blogger Andrew #Breitbart has died, attorney says. on.cnn.com/wkDt4g”

TahitiNut ‏ @TahitiNut : Forgive me, God, for I have sinned. I err on the side of being pleased with a death ... of Andrew Breitbart. Good riddance.

michael mayer ‏ @prisonforbush: Breitbart dead? D Good riddance. More republicans should follow his lead.

DAC ‏ @dac2527 : Satan calls Andrew Breitbart home... Good riddance!

Kate Witko ‏ @katewitko : Andrew Breitbart is dead at 43 from "natural causes". hrm yes I suppose wine is pretty natural. good riddance, asshole.

WeirdArchives ‏ @WeirdArchives : Looks like it's official. Andrew Breitbart is dead. Personally I don't like the guy, so good riddance to bad rubbish.

Scott On Da Rox ‏ @ridinchillwaves : RT GOOD RIDDANCE..fascist prick @Gawker: Andrew Breitbart Dead? gawker.com/5889586/

@Sttbs73 It is very hard to have sympathy for an evil person like Andrew Breitbart! I am done being NICE.

@CleverTrousers: Andrew Breitbart died! Today looks like it's going to be a GREAT day. #deadgasbags

@crmlqt: Andrew Breitbart is dead....one less racist!!!!!

@jawillie: The saddest thing about Andrew Breitbart's death is that he died such a douchebag.

Inglorious Basterdz ‏ @TheLibertyLamp : Andrew Breitbart destroyed lives based on LIES, I will not be some phony liberal and pretend condolences. ROT IN HELL ANDREW U BASTARD!
Posted by Jill Fallon at 1:04 PM | Permalink

January 7, 2012

Rick Santorum's baby

For some people, politics trumps all, even something as private as a family grieving the death of a two-hour baby before burying him.  What shriveled hardened hearts. 

Charles Lane on Rick Santorum’s baby--and mine.

The latest intra-pundit flap of Campaign 2012: a couple of my liberal colleagues have called Rick and Karen Santorum “crazy,” or “very weird” for wrapping and caressing the body of their baby, who died only two hours after emerging from 20 weeks in utero -- and taking it home for their children to see. These opinions provoked a conservative backlash.

Maybe it’s not too late for a teachable moment about neonatal death and stillbirth — and the special grief that these not-uncommon, but obviously insufficiently understood, tragedies inflict upon parents.

Nine years ago, my son Jonathan’s heart mysteriously stopped in utero — two hours prior to a scheduled c-section that would have brought him out after 33 weeks. Next came hours of induced labor so that my wife could produce a lifeless child. I cannot describe the anxiety, emotional pain, and physical horror.
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I regret that, unlike the Santorums, who presented the body of their child to their children, we did not show Jonathan’s body to our other son, who was six years old at the time. When I told him what had happened, his first question was, “Well, where is the baby?” I tried to explain what a morgue is, and why the baby went there. It was awkward and unsatisfactory -- too abstract. In hindsight, I was not protecting my son from a difficult conversation, I was protecting myself.
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Jonathan’s death was probably the hardest moment of my life. But actually touching his body was a source of comfort and the first step in going on with life. Not weird.

Jessica Heslam Our Bereavement is our own

A little while later, a nurse took her away and we never saw her again.

Those precious moments with my daughter — the only time I ever got to see and hold her — are cherished ones. That single memory of holding Grace brings me much peace.

Santorum lost a baby, too. His wife, Karen, went into premature labor when she was 20 weeks pregnant with their son and fourth child, Gabriel, in 1996. He had a fatal birth defect and died two hours after he was born.

The heartbroken couple brought their baby home. According to The Washington Post, the couple and their other children cuddled Gabriel, took pictures and sang him lullabies.

Santorum told CNN’s Piers Morgan in August that his wife, a neonatal intensive care nurse in Pittsburgh, had learned how important it was for siblings to see their lost brother or sister and include them in the family.

The Santorums’ actions are in line with American Pregnancy Association guidelines, which urge grieving parents to talk to and touch their stillborn babies — and for family members to spend time with them as well.

“It was a beautiful thing,” Santorum recalled. “It’s something that the older children do remember, and it did bring closure to them. Gabriel, even to this day, is still very much a part of our family.”
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I was sickened this week when liberal pundits mocked Santorum as “weird” and “crazy,” and tried to use the tragedy to highlight his extreme right-wing views.

Some may not agree with Santorum’s ideology, but to ridicule a grief-stricken father for grappling with one of life’s most agonizing tragedies is the dirtiest of politics.

Mark Steyn  Politics trumps Left's empathy

Lest you doubt that we're headed for the most vicious election year in memory, consider the determined effort, within 10 minutes of his triumph in Iowa, to weirdify Rick Santorum. Discussing the surging senator on Fox News, Alan Colmes mused on some of the "crazy things" he's said and done.

Santorum has certainly said and done many crazy things, as have most members of America's political class, but the "crazy thing" Colmes chose to focus on was Santorum's "taking his two-hour-old baby when it died right after childbirth home," whereupon he "played with it." My National Review colleague Rich Lowry rightly slapped down Alan on air, and Colmes subsequently apologized, though not before Mrs. Santorum had been reduced to tears by his remarks. Undeterred, Eugene Robinson, the Pulitzer Prize-winning Washington Post columnist, doubled down on stupid and insisted that Deadbabygate demonstrated how Santorum is "not a little weird, he's really weird."
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Not many of us will ever know what it's like to have a child who lives only a few hours. That alone should occasion a certain modesty about presuming to know what are "weird" and unweird reactions to such an event.
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Santorum's respect for all life, including even the smallest bleakest meanest two-hour life, speaks well for him, especially in comparison with his fellow Pennsylvanian, the accused mass murderer Kermit Gosnell, an industrial-scale abortionist at a Philadelphia charnel house who plunged scissors into the spinal cords of healthy delivered babies. Few of Gosnell's employees seemed to find anything "weird" about that: Indeed, they helped him out by tossing their remains in jars and bags piled up in freezers and cupboards. Much less crazy than taking 'em home and holding a funeral, right?

Posted by Jill Fallon at 1:04 PM | Permalink

December 30, 2011

No fistfights at the funeral home

Funeral homes are not the place for family arguments or fistfights.

Woman attacks her sister at their mother's funeral in battle over family heirloom jewels

A 'catfight' between two sisters at their mother's funeral broke out Monday following a dispute over missing jewellery.

Funeral home staff looked on in horror as the two women exchanged blows during a private visitation in a Texas funeral home.

Kilgore Police said Kimberley Lynn Briggs grabbed her older sister Debra Gail Goff by the hair and punched her several times.
The 45-year-old also shoved her sister to the floor before staff at the Chapel of the Radar Funeral Home managed to pull them apart.

It is believed a dispute over the whereabouts of their mother's jewellery was at the centre of their fight.
Posted by Jill Fallon at 10:42 AM | Permalink

October 29, 2011

Learning about her son's death on Facebook

I don't care how estranged you are from your ex, common decency requires that you ex-spouse that your child has died.

The mother who learned of her son's death at a football game on FACEBOOK hours after he died

The mother of a high school student who collapsed and died after a football game was only notified of her son's death via Facebook.

Jackie Barden wasn't told of her 16-year-old son Ridge's death at a high school football match because she was not listed as an emergency contact.

Her ex-husband, whom she is not on 'speaking terms' with and was the boy's emergency contact, also did not tell her.
Posted by Jill Fallon at 11:32 PM | Permalink

October 13, 2011

Pot brownies at funerals a no-no

I'm beginning a new category of funeral etiquette because there are so many people who have no idea how to comport themselves.

One never serves marijuana brownies at funerals, wakes or memorial services.

Lest attendees eat them unaware, fall sick, and have to be hospitalized like these three old people in Newport Beach, California.

The three old people, who all live in Huntington Beach and Newport Beach, complained of nausea, dizziness and an inability to stand without assistance.

Huntington Beach Police said the tray of brownies was put out without any announcement about what was in them.

They were served a a tribute to the man who had died, who ate marijuana brownies.
Posted by Jill Fallon at 5:27 PM | Permalink